Allah describes death in a number of places in the Quran.
“Verily it is We Who give Life and Death; and to Us is the Final Goal” [Qaaf 50:43]
“It is Allah Who gives you life, then gives you death; then He will gather you together for the Day of Judgment about which there is no doubt” [Al Jathiyai 45:26]
Unfortunately, most of us tend to forge that one day we all will return to meet our creator, Allah (Subhan wa Ta’allah). As you are reading this please think and ponder how you have prepared for the moment when the angel of death will come. It is human nature not to think about this moment or prepare for it, but as Allah says in Surah Ankaboot, Surah 20: V 57
“Every soul shall have a taste of death in the end to Us shall ye be brought back.” [Al-Ankaboot 29:57]
This document contains information on what to do when someone dies. It gives a step by step procedure and important contact and cost information. The following topics are discussed
Islam has strongly emphasized that each individual make a will in his/her lifetime and have witnesses to it.
“It is prescribed for you, when death approaches one of you, if he leaves behind wealth, that he bequeaths unto parents and near relatives in goodness; (that is) a duty on those who safeguard themselves with full awareness of divine laws.” [Surah Al-Baqara 2:180]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) has also strongly urged Muslims to do so. It is so much important, that when going to bed to sleep, it is recommended that the will be kept under the pillow.
In these times, the will has become extremely important. It avoids costs and complications for the heirs. It provides for the proper distribution of assets, properties and possessions, instruction for payment of debts, selection of an executor and appointment of a guardian for minors. Without a will, the state would step-in, distributing the wealth according to the state laws and the court would select an administrator for the estate and a guardian for children.
Parents with children of minor age especially must have a well written will assigning a trustee for their estate and guardian for the children. If there is no will the court will assign a guardian of its choice. Not writing The Last Will and Testament, then, amounts to giving up your rights regarding your heirs.
There are many Islamic wills prepared by scholars and Will experts that are available on the internet e.g. ISNA has a good sample of Islamic will
Close family and friends should try to support and comfort the dying person through supplication and remembrance of Allah.
Encourage and help him or her to recite the Shahada.
It was narrated that Muâaadh ibn Jabal (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “If a person’s last words are Laa Ilaaha ill-Allaah, Paradise will be guaranteed for him.” Narrated by Ahmad, 21529; Abu Dawood, 3116; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwaâ al-Ghaleel, 687.
The dying person should not be bothered with repeated requests to say Shahada if he has said it and does not say anything after that.
Upon death, the eye lids are to be closed, the body should be covered, and preparation for burial takes place as soon as possible. The whole body is washed and wrapped in a shroud. Muslims gather, and a prayer is performed for the dead. The body is to be buried soon after the prayer. The wrapped body is to be laid directly at the bottom of the dug grave. The body is to be laid on its right side facing the direction of Makkah. A ceiling is attached to the grave and then covered with dirt. The grave is to be marked by raising its top level of dirt above surrounding grounds. A stone may be used to mark its location, but no writings are allowed. Buildings or other forms of structures are not allowed on top of the grave.
The family of the deceased has a responsibility to fulfill any debts he had as soon as possible. They have the commitment to maintain contacts and courteous relationships with close relatives and close friends. They frequently pray and supplicate for him. Charity, fasting, prayers, and pilgrimage are often performed on behalf of the deceased. Visiting the graves is recommended for the living to remember death and the Day of Judgment.
Recommended funeral homes:
Hollomon-Brown Funeral Home
Tidewater Drive Chapel, 8464 Tidewater Drive, Norfolk
Phone: (757) 583-0177
Parklawn Wood Funeral Home
2552 North Armstead Ave. Hampton, VA 23666
Phone: (757) 827-4670
The burial takes place in the Greenlawn Memorial Park
Greenlawn Memorial Park
2700 Parish Avenue
Newport News, VA 23607,
Phone: (757) 247-5181)
Services provided by funeral homes are:
Cemetery Costs include:
The cost of funeral and burial varies based on services requested by the family and the funeral home or cemetery. The total cost of a funeral and burial starts at $3500 and more. The cemeteries usually require one day or more notice for preparing the grave. They may charge extra for a burial after 3 pm or on a weekend or holiday.
When a Muslim passes away, it is a collective obligation (Fard-e-kifaya) of that particular Muslim community to arrange and participate in the funeral services for the deceased. Though only some members of the community may fulfill this obligation on behalf of the rest, the entire community would be held to account if none did it. This is a right of a Muslim even after death.
Basically the funeral procedure consists of four major steps:
1. Ghusl (washing the body)
2. Kafan (wrapping the body in white shrouds)
3. Salat-ul Janazah (Funeral Prayer)
4. Dafan (Burial)
There are no Islamic teaching to:
For a Muslim woman, who has lost her husband, the iddah period is four (lunar) months and ten days. If she is pregnant, the iddah ends at the delivery. During this period it is recommended for her to stay in her home and she may leave only when it is absolutely necessary (e.g., medical or other emergency or necessary chores that need her attendance). Family and friends are to take care of the widow during this period of Iddah
It is a trial time to handle the death of a family member. Often the next of kin or friends find themselves lost asking themselves “What do I need to do now”? We have prepared a check list that will be of assistance
HANDELING OF FINANCES AND ASSETS
MINOR CHILDREN LEFT BEHIND
If there are minor children under the age of 18 years and the will provides for a guardian, then the guardian needs to be informed and the children need to be placed in the care of the guardian. If there are minor children and no guardian is appointed, or if there is no will, then based on the state laws the court will appoint a guardian.
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